I've been giving some thought to: If I could give a gift to the world or any one person, what would that be? That is a pretty big order, and one which took some soul searching. (But before I reveal my final answer, I'd like anyone reading this blog to add a comment and tell what you would wish or give).
Of course, there is always the generic answer of world peace. That's nice, but it doesn't address the total human condition. We could have world peace and there would still be want, poverty, injustice, etc. Mankind (in general, but not everyone) would still be greedy, untruthful, envious, self-centered, etc. So you get the drift.
Next, I thought of compassion. That's nice too, but compassion without action is pointless. We shake our heads at the homeless in the street and maybe even say a prayer on their behalf. We have compassion and feel very sorry for them, but then sometimes simply walk away. We also feel the pain of those dying from hunger or thrown into prison or murdered for political or religious reasons. But what do we do?
I thought about contentment. It didn't take long for me to realize that contentment isn't the answer. Do I really want people to be okay with the wrongs in this world? Do I want those in abject poverty to be contented with their lot? Do I want those who suffer daily injustices to be okay with it? Do I want people to be complacent and not try to make this world a better place for their fellowman? No. That's not the right gift either.
Then I thought, maybe I would eliminate suffering. Who could argue with that? But would we know how to behave without suffering? Would others still try to inflict it, but the recipients just wouldn't feel it?
Also, without some adversity, we would never appreciate what we have. Bad days only make us appreciate the ones that aren't. Also, without adversity and suffering, would we care and try to alleviate that for our fellowman? One of the greatest pleasures in life is to do something good for someone else. If there were nothing to do, would I be as grateful for my blessings, and would I have the enjoyment of sharing them?
And then it finally occurred to me. There is only one gift that would encompass all of my singular attempts at happiness and goodness for individuals as well as the world...LOVE. That is the only thing that can change the heart of man to strive for goodness.
Love brings peace, contentment, compassion that leads to action, and while it doesn't eliminate suffering, it makes it easier. Jesus said that the greatest commandment was to "love one another." At Christmas, God truly gave the world the best gift of all. I can't think of a better wish.
So what's your idea of the perfect gift?
Wednesday, December 21, 2016
Saturday, December 3, 2016
An Ah-Ha Christmas Moment
I'm unsure of where it came from, but just as I was going to sleep last night, a revelation occurred - there is a difference between celebrating Christmas and celebrating Jesus' birth! Duh! That may not sound profound, but for someone who thinks in secular versus non-secular, it was surprisingly quite provocative.
Most Christians are aware of why we celebrate the season and the true meaning of Christmas, but isn't it remarkable that so many others "celebrate" it too? For one short period of time, many understand the best of what Christmas means in caring for, and having good will for those in need.
Of course family togetherness is also a part of Christmas that non-Christians define only as intimate family, while Christians see family as including the brotherhood of man. It's just unfortunate some don't recognize why all this wonderfulness of Christmas came about. Still, I'm thrilled anytime anyone acts to improve the lives of those less fortunate, even if it might only be for a short time.
Recently, I wrote a children's book called An Afternoon with the Christmas Angel. Although I intended it to be available this year, I decided to wait in order to add additional illustrations and changes. I want it to be perfect. It's seasonal, but also timeless, so one more year will not affect its marketability.
The story is about a little boy who still believes in Santa, but is in dire need of finding out what Jesus' birth has meant and still means to the world. It's awareness of the fact that much of what is right with this world is, in fact, due to the birth of Christ. After all, it was Jesus who stressed brotherly love, caring for each other, peace and justice. Too bad, even some Christians, fail to follow his teachings.
In any case, Christmas is a time for all mankind to rejoice. It's a time of giving, not taking, and for understanding the humanity that binds us all. That alone is worth celebrating, but as a Christian, I'm going to celebrate a lot more than just that, and for a lot longer than just a season.
Merry Christmas (and I'll be saying that a lot more in the ensuing 3 weeks)!
Most Christians are aware of why we celebrate the season and the true meaning of Christmas, but isn't it remarkable that so many others "celebrate" it too? For one short period of time, many understand the best of what Christmas means in caring for, and having good will for those in need.
Of course family togetherness is also a part of Christmas that non-Christians define only as intimate family, while Christians see family as including the brotherhood of man. It's just unfortunate some don't recognize why all this wonderfulness of Christmas came about. Still, I'm thrilled anytime anyone acts to improve the lives of those less fortunate, even if it might only be for a short time.
Recently, I wrote a children's book called An Afternoon with the Christmas Angel. Although I intended it to be available this year, I decided to wait in order to add additional illustrations and changes. I want it to be perfect. It's seasonal, but also timeless, so one more year will not affect its marketability.
The story is about a little boy who still believes in Santa, but is in dire need of finding out what Jesus' birth has meant and still means to the world. It's awareness of the fact that much of what is right with this world is, in fact, due to the birth of Christ. After all, it was Jesus who stressed brotherly love, caring for each other, peace and justice. Too bad, even some Christians, fail to follow his teachings.
In any case, Christmas is a time for all mankind to rejoice. It's a time of giving, not taking, and for understanding the humanity that binds us all. That alone is worth celebrating, but as a Christian, I'm going to celebrate a lot more than just that, and for a lot longer than just a season.
Merry Christmas (and I'll be saying that a lot more in the ensuing 3 weeks)!
Monday, November 28, 2016
I'm Ready!
Last year, I had a little difficulty getting into the Christmas spirit. I enjoyed all the excitement of the season, but it took a while to "feel it." This year is different.
More than three weeks ago, my son and daughter-in-law (who would put up her tree on Labor Day if my son allowed it), unexpectedly dropped in saying, "We're here to help you put up your tree and decorate." Who am I to argue about putting the tree up approximately two weeks before Thanksgiving?"
As a former preschool and corporate director, I've managed to keep the "kid" within me alive. My faith plays an important part in how I celebrate the season, but there is still that child-like wonder with a touch of magic that lingers.
This year, I've been on the fringe of the Christmas spirit since late May when I purchased two special gifts for my sons at a fundraiser. This was followed by the shopping channels' Christmas in July promotions, and I've been buying ever since. That is why, when most people are just beginning to shop, I'm finished!
Last year, I finished early too, and it allowed me to focus more on what mattered. That's what ultimately got me into the Christmas spirit, and that made it easy to decide what to do this year. I'll give to charities as usual, read all the Christmas books I want, watch all the Christmas movies I want, and decide what special things I can do for others.
If I choose to shop and not just give a check to help those in need, it will be a special event for me - it will feel differently than buying for my family and friends. There is just something within our nature that makes us feel good to do acts of kindness without seeking anything in return.
Matthew 6:4 (NIV) states: "...4 so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you." While I believe that we can share ideas (not boast) for doing good things as a way to encourage others, God knows how much fun it is for us to share our blessings. I am grateful that He lets me participate in that manner, and lets me truly "feel" the Christmas spirit.
More than three weeks ago, my son and daughter-in-law (who would put up her tree on Labor Day if my son allowed it), unexpectedly dropped in saying, "We're here to help you put up your tree and decorate." Who am I to argue about putting the tree up approximately two weeks before Thanksgiving?"
As a former preschool and corporate director, I've managed to keep the "kid" within me alive. My faith plays an important part in how I celebrate the season, but there is still that child-like wonder with a touch of magic that lingers.
This year, I've been on the fringe of the Christmas spirit since late May when I purchased two special gifts for my sons at a fundraiser. This was followed by the shopping channels' Christmas in July promotions, and I've been buying ever since. That is why, when most people are just beginning to shop, I'm finished!
Last year, I finished early too, and it allowed me to focus more on what mattered. That's what ultimately got me into the Christmas spirit, and that made it easy to decide what to do this year. I'll give to charities as usual, read all the Christmas books I want, watch all the Christmas movies I want, and decide what special things I can do for others.
If I choose to shop and not just give a check to help those in need, it will be a special event for me - it will feel differently than buying for my family and friends. There is just something within our nature that makes us feel good to do acts of kindness without seeking anything in return.
Matthew 6:4 (NIV) states: "...4 so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you." While I believe that we can share ideas (not boast) for doing good things as a way to encourage others, God knows how much fun it is for us to share our blessings. I am grateful that He lets me participate in that manner, and lets me truly "feel" the Christmas spirit.
Wednesday, November 9, 2016
Integrity: Not Just for Individuals
Dictionary.com defines integrity as "adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty." Interestingly enough, those are some of the same characteristics commanded in the Bible, but also highly valued by most of us.
Often we think of integrity as an individual trait, but businesses can also be designated as having such - it just depends on who's running it and who's representing it. As a former customer service manager, I believe that we should praise such individuals and companies that demonstrate integrity through customer service. A business truly shows its integrity, not just by the product it offers, but how it handles the inevitable problems that arise. Thus, my praise for a USA-based company, and please read the entire scenario.
I use a mobility scooter, and during the past 15 years or so, I've had three. The first two served me very well. My most recent one, however, turned out to be a lemon after only a year and a half, and I was most fortunate that the manufacturer was one of integrity.
Less than six months of owning my scooter, a repair had to be made when the scooter would travel about 10 feet, beep several times, and then shut down. The handle that controls the seat position also had a portion break off. Fortunately, one of my old scooters was available to use while I awaited someone to fix the new one.
A few months later, the seat began to rip at the seams, followed by a rip in the rubber on the handle, chunks of the rubber tires fell out, and the inner tire hubcaps broke off when scraping against the vertical part of a door frame. That was soon followed by more ripping on the seat where no stress occurs.
There was no way that this scooter would last five years before I would be eligible for a new one. So, I handled this in the manner it should be handled - I nicely wrote to the President of Golden Technologies, a family-owned company that manufactured the scooter.
My first letter was via postal mail, but when no response was received, I emailed the company. They had glowing reviews from others so I knew that something must be amiss. I also realized, that despite best efforts, manufacturing can still produce an infrequent sub-par product. Since this product was made in the USA by an American company, I was hopeful that was the case with my scooter.
Shortly after sending that second correspondence, I received a nice email from the executive assistant, Mary Walsh. I emailed pictures of the problems to her, and after several emails, it was arranged to have contact from one of their division heads.
The end result was communication with the person who handles the mobility tech service, Mark Mrugal. He provided excellent customer service and kept me informed of how resolution was occurring through phone calls and email. Thanks to him, I received a completely new steering shaft with handles, three new tires, a new seat, and a new shroud kit (the color pieces on a scooter).
So what can be learned from this? Integrity (both individual and cumulative) makes this world a better place because it's basically a true gauge of how we value one another. As a side effect, it's also a good business trait as it produces customer loyalty. Thank you, Golden Technologies, for demonstrating your integrity and making my world a little better place!
(Check out Matthew 18:15-16 to learn how the Bible says to resolve issues that arise. It works with businesses as well as other people). :-)
Often we think of integrity as an individual trait, but businesses can also be designated as having such - it just depends on who's running it and who's representing it. As a former customer service manager, I believe that we should praise such individuals and companies that demonstrate integrity through customer service. A business truly shows its integrity, not just by the product it offers, but how it handles the inevitable problems that arise. Thus, my praise for a USA-based company, and please read the entire scenario.
I use a mobility scooter, and during the past 15 years or so, I've had three. The first two served me very well. My most recent one, however, turned out to be a lemon after only a year and a half, and I was most fortunate that the manufacturer was one of integrity.
Less than six months of owning my scooter, a repair had to be made when the scooter would travel about 10 feet, beep several times, and then shut down. The handle that controls the seat position also had a portion break off. Fortunately, one of my old scooters was available to use while I awaited someone to fix the new one.
A few months later, the seat began to rip at the seams, followed by a rip in the rubber on the handle, chunks of the rubber tires fell out, and the inner tire hubcaps broke off when scraping against the vertical part of a door frame. That was soon followed by more ripping on the seat where no stress occurs.
There was no way that this scooter would last five years before I would be eligible for a new one. So, I handled this in the manner it should be handled - I nicely wrote to the President of Golden Technologies, a family-owned company that manufactured the scooter.
My first letter was via postal mail, but when no response was received, I emailed the company. They had glowing reviews from others so I knew that something must be amiss. I also realized, that despite best efforts, manufacturing can still produce an infrequent sub-par product. Since this product was made in the USA by an American company, I was hopeful that was the case with my scooter.
Shortly after sending that second correspondence, I received a nice email from the executive assistant, Mary Walsh. I emailed pictures of the problems to her, and after several emails, it was arranged to have contact from one of their division heads.
The end result was communication with the person who handles the mobility tech service, Mark Mrugal. He provided excellent customer service and kept me informed of how resolution was occurring through phone calls and email. Thanks to him, I received a completely new steering shaft with handles, three new tires, a new seat, and a new shroud kit (the color pieces on a scooter).
So what can be learned from this? Integrity (both individual and cumulative) makes this world a better place because it's basically a true gauge of how we value one another. As a side effect, it's also a good business trait as it produces customer loyalty. Thank you, Golden Technologies, for demonstrating your integrity and making my world a little better place!
(Check out Matthew 18:15-16 to learn how the Bible says to resolve issues that arise. It works with businesses as well as other people). :-)
Monday, October 17, 2016
Are We God's Physical Presence?
Asking if we are God's physical presence is a rather big question. In a stewardship Temple Talk at my church yesterday, I stated that I believe we are.
To be perfectly clear, I am in no way suggesting that we are God or anything of that nature. But, I do think that He allows the holy spirit to dwell within us and then do His bidding. An example would be when someone needs a reassuring hug; we can physically give it on behalf of God.
Since God's presence on earth is spiritual, I simply believe He sometimes uses our physical presence to represent Him as noted. It's the reason I think we were put on this earth - to care for one another. God equips us to do so and then uses our physical presence to make it happen.
There is another side to this. I never, ever want someone to look at my flaws and say, "That's God at work." As a Christian, I believe there was only one human ever capable of being God, and that was Jesus Christ. I, and other human beings, are pretty poor substitutes.
When I feel those little nudges to do something good, I'm certain that it's God who's telling me to do it. As a spiritual being, He isn't going to walk up to a homeless person and buy them lunch, but I can. And, I'm very glad to do it on His behalf!
To be perfectly clear, I am in no way suggesting that we are God or anything of that nature. But, I do think that He allows the holy spirit to dwell within us and then do His bidding. An example would be when someone needs a reassuring hug; we can physically give it on behalf of God.
Since God's presence on earth is spiritual, I simply believe He sometimes uses our physical presence to represent Him as noted. It's the reason I think we were put on this earth - to care for one another. God equips us to do so and then uses our physical presence to make it happen.
There is another side to this. I never, ever want someone to look at my flaws and say, "That's God at work." As a Christian, I believe there was only one human ever capable of being God, and that was Jesus Christ. I, and other human beings, are pretty poor substitutes.
When I feel those little nudges to do something good, I'm certain that it's God who's telling me to do it. As a spiritual being, He isn't going to walk up to a homeless person and buy them lunch, but I can. And, I'm very glad to do it on His behalf!
Wednesday, October 12, 2016
Legal Versus Moral
I suspect that other people of faith have the same occasional conflict as I do - it's deciding sometimes between what is really legal and what is really moral.
Now, I know we should always try to do what is moral; that is the only real behavior that will change the world for the better. And, hopefully our motivation toward that change is our love for our fellowman, our planet and our creator. But this coming election has brought out issues that really make us think. Spoiler Alert: I'm not going to talk about any particular candidate - we've had enough of that.
The issues really come down to this: How we view others, individual rights, and honesty. I'm tired of the political approach to mudslinging, especially because there are a lot of half-truths and spin involved. Instead, I want someone to tell me, not just that something is wrong, but how they will fix it in practical terms to make it better.
One of the legal versus moral issues for me is how to keep terrorists out of the country without punishing all those who have a different faith than mine. Morally, I can't stand by and condone refusal of immigration to people, who have been persecuted in their own lands, just because they are a different faith or come from a particular country. How do we fix this problem? That's what I want to know.
In that same vein, how much privacy should we give up to ensure that we are safe? Most of us have nothing to hide, but what is legal and what is moral here? It might be legal to profile someone, but is it always the ethical thing to do? I'm torn because privacy invasion has thwarted some very heinous acts.
It seems that some people are so forgiving on some issues, but stand tight on others. Entitlement especially appears to be a problem. No one wants to be taken advantage of, but should programs that actually reach people who need them, be abolished entirely such as Obamacare, or should it be fixed? I'm pretty confident about how I feel about that one.
Gun control is another issue. Most of us don't want to take guns away from hunters, those who occasionally like to target practice, or truly require one for needed protection, but is it moral for everyone to have a gun, especially without knowledge of how to use it? Personally, I don't want a society where you have to own a gun to protect yourself from everyone else who has a gun. In Kansas, you don't need a permit or training for concealed carry. How do you fix this? I want to know.
People sometimes cite "charity begins at home" and "family first," and think it comes from the Bible. It doesn't, or at least, not in those exact terms. While caring for family is important, it doesn't always just refer to immediate blood relatives. Family is defined as much more, as in the family of believers, and in more general terms, mankind. How can I say that I will only support feeding or defending people in the USA, and then ignore others in need who were not fortunate to be born in this country? We are all God's creatures.
A final question might be: Just because you can and it's legal, should you take advantage of it? Most of you will probably know what I'm referring to, but I'm sticking to the issues rather than candidates. I believe we need God's help with the issues, not rhetoric, and with the guidance to face them with what is moral, not just legal.
Now, I know we should always try to do what is moral; that is the only real behavior that will change the world for the better. And, hopefully our motivation toward that change is our love for our fellowman, our planet and our creator. But this coming election has brought out issues that really make us think. Spoiler Alert: I'm not going to talk about any particular candidate - we've had enough of that.
The issues really come down to this: How we view others, individual rights, and honesty. I'm tired of the political approach to mudslinging, especially because there are a lot of half-truths and spin involved. Instead, I want someone to tell me, not just that something is wrong, but how they will fix it in practical terms to make it better.
One of the legal versus moral issues for me is how to keep terrorists out of the country without punishing all those who have a different faith than mine. Morally, I can't stand by and condone refusal of immigration to people, who have been persecuted in their own lands, just because they are a different faith or come from a particular country. How do we fix this problem? That's what I want to know.
In that same vein, how much privacy should we give up to ensure that we are safe? Most of us have nothing to hide, but what is legal and what is moral here? It might be legal to profile someone, but is it always the ethical thing to do? I'm torn because privacy invasion has thwarted some very heinous acts.
It seems that some people are so forgiving on some issues, but stand tight on others. Entitlement especially appears to be a problem. No one wants to be taken advantage of, but should programs that actually reach people who need them, be abolished entirely such as Obamacare, or should it be fixed? I'm pretty confident about how I feel about that one.
Gun control is another issue. Most of us don't want to take guns away from hunters, those who occasionally like to target practice, or truly require one for needed protection, but is it moral for everyone to have a gun, especially without knowledge of how to use it? Personally, I don't want a society where you have to own a gun to protect yourself from everyone else who has a gun. In Kansas, you don't need a permit or training for concealed carry. How do you fix this? I want to know.
People sometimes cite "charity begins at home" and "family first," and think it comes from the Bible. It doesn't, or at least, not in those exact terms. While caring for family is important, it doesn't always just refer to immediate blood relatives. Family is defined as much more, as in the family of believers, and in more general terms, mankind. How can I say that I will only support feeding or defending people in the USA, and then ignore others in need who were not fortunate to be born in this country? We are all God's creatures.
A final question might be: Just because you can and it's legal, should you take advantage of it? Most of you will probably know what I'm referring to, but I'm sticking to the issues rather than candidates. I believe we need God's help with the issues, not rhetoric, and with the guidance to face them with what is moral, not just legal.
Wednesday, September 21, 2016
Temple Talk on Tithing
I've been asked to do a five minute temple talk in October about tithing. That is just a quick speech during church services about a particular subject. And, since we are about to begin our stewardship campaign and ask for pledges for 2017, it is fitting to address this matter.
Tithing isn't new - it begins with the Old Testament and there are a lot of references to it. Tithing didn't necessarily mean money, but also produce, stock, etc. Today we recognize it also as the giving of our time and talents, but it really comes down to simply returning a tenth of what you are blessed with to God. It should be done not out of obligation, but in willingness. The idea is that God has given you a gift, and in appreciation, you show your gratitude by giving back a portion.
There seems also to be a question as to whether that means 10% to the church or 10% for all charitable giving. I think one has to come to that decision on his/her own. I just know that I'm not limited to 10% and am fortunate to be able to contribute to both. You don't need to have an over-abundance of wealth and resources, but if one has everything he/she needs, why not share additional blessings with others?
Last year I wrote a poem just for stewardship. I remember what it was like just starting out married life (when I joined my church), and later having a young family. I believe meeting a pledge is somewhat like forgiveness - you really need to pray in order to do it. That covers the unforeseen as well as any temptation not to do it.
For anyone who hasn't seen the poem, here it is:
Tithing isn't new - it begins with the Old Testament and there are a lot of references to it. Tithing didn't necessarily mean money, but also produce, stock, etc. Today we recognize it also as the giving of our time and talents, but it really comes down to simply returning a tenth of what you are blessed with to God. It should be done not out of obligation, but in willingness. The idea is that God has given you a gift, and in appreciation, you show your gratitude by giving back a portion.
There seems also to be a question as to whether that means 10% to the church or 10% for all charitable giving. I think one has to come to that decision on his/her own. I just know that I'm not limited to 10% and am fortunate to be able to contribute to both. You don't need to have an over-abundance of wealth and resources, but if one has everything he/she needs, why not share additional blessings with others?
Last year I wrote a poem just for stewardship. I remember what it was like just starting out married life (when I joined my church), and later having a young family. I believe meeting a pledge is somewhat like forgiveness - you really need to pray in order to do it. That covers the unforeseen as well as any temptation not to do it.
For anyone who hasn't seen the poem, here it is:
What If?
I had a
dream the other night
About what I
would do
If there no
longer was a church
No altar,
nave or pew
No wedding
venue for anyone
No funerals
for those who pass
No services
on Christmas Eve
No baptisms
or Easter mass
How can this
be? I asked
The church
is always here
Whenever I
want or need it
Only a few
times every year
And then I
finally realized
The church
needs funds year round
To keep it
there for all of us
To give it
solid ground
So I quickly
sought my pledge card
And asked
God to give to me
A generous
and grateful heart
To support
church continually
It hasn’t
always been easy
Finances are
sometimes tight
But I
remember everything is God’s
To give back
is only right
And now I’m
blessed to know
That I’m
helping my church to be
Always there
for others
And
especially there for me!
Vicki Julian (copyright 2015)
Blessings to all!
Saturday, September 3, 2016
When to Be Quiet
Have you ever been in a group meeting and almost every topic makes you want to comment or ask a question? It's annoying when someone does that, but recently I found myself being that someone!
There are a few things that I just can't keep quiet about like child welfare, certain political issues, cost of various items, etc. It seemed that all of those came up in church council recently. I asked questions, expressed concern and offered suggestions. I've never been quite so animated in a group setting! I can only hope that my fellow council members forgive my overindulgence.
But then, as I grow older and hopefully gain a little more wisdom, I find there are some other things that I can't keep quiet about: Injustice and unfairness (but I'm still working on that more), standing on principle, many political issues, bad business practices, inconsideration, intentional rudeness, stupidity (not to be confused with honest and unintentional ignorance), disrespect and my faith.
Growing up, I remember hearing that good manners meant you didn't express your opinions in an overt and disagreeing manner, especially on the subjects of politics and religion. Today, society forces and needs us to do that. In fact, the Bible has many scriptures that allude to doing so.
Jeremiah 22:3 (NRSV) states: "Thus says the Lord: Act with justice and righteousness, and deliver from the hand of the oppressor anyone who has been robbed."
Perhaps the best example to explain the expectation of us is Matthew 25: 43-45 - "43I was a stranger and you did not welcome me, naked and you did not give me clothing, sick and in prison and you did not visit me.’ 44 Then they also will answer, ‘Lord, when was it that we saw you hungry or thirsty or a stranger or naked or sick or in prison, and did not take care of you?’ 45 Then he will answer them, ‘Truly I tell you, just as you did not do it to one of the least of these, you did not do it to me.’
Granted, I can't be called a paragon of mercy or champion of the oppressed, but I try to do what I can. It's all part of my faith because I truly believe we are here to care for one another. But to my fellow council members, please know that I will probably never be as vocal as I was at our last meeting. Let's just say, I want to take my own advice and be respectful without preaching to the choir!
There are a few things that I just can't keep quiet about like child welfare, certain political issues, cost of various items, etc. It seemed that all of those came up in church council recently. I asked questions, expressed concern and offered suggestions. I've never been quite so animated in a group setting! I can only hope that my fellow council members forgive my overindulgence.
But then, as I grow older and hopefully gain a little more wisdom, I find there are some other things that I can't keep quiet about: Injustice and unfairness (but I'm still working on that more), standing on principle, many political issues, bad business practices, inconsideration, intentional rudeness, stupidity (not to be confused with honest and unintentional ignorance), disrespect and my faith.
Growing up, I remember hearing that good manners meant you didn't express your opinions in an overt and disagreeing manner, especially on the subjects of politics and religion. Today, society forces and needs us to do that. In fact, the Bible has many scriptures that allude to doing so.
Jeremiah 22:3 (NRSV) states: "Thus says the Lord: Act with justice and righteousness, and deliver from the hand of the oppressor anyone who has been robbed."
Perhaps the best example to explain the expectation of us is Matthew 25: 43-45 - "43I was a stranger and you did not welcome me, naked and you did not give me clothing, sick and in prison and you did not visit me.’ 44 Then they also will answer, ‘Lord, when was it that we saw you hungry or thirsty or a stranger or naked or sick or in prison, and did not take care of you?’ 45 Then he will answer them, ‘Truly I tell you, just as you did not do it to one of the least of these, you did not do it to me.’
Granted, I can't be called a paragon of mercy or champion of the oppressed, but I try to do what I can. It's all part of my faith because I truly believe we are here to care for one another. But to my fellow council members, please know that I will probably never be as vocal as I was at our last meeting. Let's just say, I want to take my own advice and be respectful without preaching to the choir!
Thursday, August 18, 2016
Trying to Understand Atheism
I don't often click on links from my web browser, but I did when one caught my eye with the caption, "25 Hollywood Celebrities You Didn't Know Were Atheists." Well, some on that list surprised me and others just made sense. Some also had misconceptions of what I think faith and religion to be, and others were too wrapped up in their own egos to think that anything or anyone else could be in control.
I know all about free will, but I'm somewhat confused by people who don't believe in God, or rather I want them to at least believe in something. That something should be an acknowledgement that there is more to this world and universe than ourselves regardless of whether it is a holy creator, enlightenment that surpasses our current existence, etc. If one doesn't believe in God, then at least be an agnostic who says he/she doesn't actually know.
I have no problem with science and explanations of how the universe and everything in it were created. Maybe God used the Big Bang Theory, or even evolution. The point is that it had to start somewhere, and I attribute it to God because I can't explain it otherwise. Atheists go to maybe the point of "how" in order to explain things, but where did the matter or the energy come from to give us the starting point? They don't seem to be bothered with that - I am, and I need to make sense of it.
What I found about the self-proclaimed atheists in the article is that they fail to ask the one question that begins the pursuit of knowledge - Why? People of faith often wonder why with questions such as: Why are we here? Why do bad things happen? Why? Why? Why! It's acceptance of the reality that we don't and can't know everything.
Religion aside, our small, individual, existence does mean something. If it didn't, why would we even be aware of it being finite? If there is nothing greater than us, why don't we use more than a small part of our brain? Why aren't we better to one another? Why is there so much we don't understand? How do we comprehend existence that isn't lineal? There are so many questions, it could make my head hurt!
I accept that one does not have to be a Christian, or for that matter, a believer in God to be a good person and do good things, but I know I'm a better person because of my faith. I also know that I can't look at a beautiful sky or magnificent tree, hear joyous music or see so many wonderful gifts in this world and not believe that something greater than I is responsible.
We will all have the answers someday, but until then, I'll continue to be amazed and confused at (and probably pray for) those who proudly proclaim their atheism.
I know all about free will, but I'm somewhat confused by people who don't believe in God, or rather I want them to at least believe in something. That something should be an acknowledgement that there is more to this world and universe than ourselves regardless of whether it is a holy creator, enlightenment that surpasses our current existence, etc. If one doesn't believe in God, then at least be an agnostic who says he/she doesn't actually know.
I have no problem with science and explanations of how the universe and everything in it were created. Maybe God used the Big Bang Theory, or even evolution. The point is that it had to start somewhere, and I attribute it to God because I can't explain it otherwise. Atheists go to maybe the point of "how" in order to explain things, but where did the matter or the energy come from to give us the starting point? They don't seem to be bothered with that - I am, and I need to make sense of it.
What I found about the self-proclaimed atheists in the article is that they fail to ask the one question that begins the pursuit of knowledge - Why? People of faith often wonder why with questions such as: Why are we here? Why do bad things happen? Why? Why? Why! It's acceptance of the reality that we don't and can't know everything.
Religion aside, our small, individual, existence does mean something. If it didn't, why would we even be aware of it being finite? If there is nothing greater than us, why don't we use more than a small part of our brain? Why aren't we better to one another? Why is there so much we don't understand? How do we comprehend existence that isn't lineal? There are so many questions, it could make my head hurt!
I accept that one does not have to be a Christian, or for that matter, a believer in God to be a good person and do good things, but I know I'm a better person because of my faith. I also know that I can't look at a beautiful sky or magnificent tree, hear joyous music or see so many wonderful gifts in this world and not believe that something greater than I is responsible.
We will all have the answers someday, but until then, I'll continue to be amazed and confused at (and probably pray for) those who proudly proclaim their atheism.
Thursday, August 11, 2016
When Bad Things Happen - The Schlitterbahn Tragedy
I didn’t think I could be more horrified by the tragedy of
the 10 year old boy who recently died at the Kansas City Schlitterbahn
waterpark until I read the newspaper today. Somehow, knowing the child was
decapitated seemed to further increase the shock of this accident.
My first thought was “that poor child,” and then, of course,
my heart ached for the parents. At least for the child, it was over quickly. I was, however, relieved to
hear the family’s statement that they are people of faith and believe that they
will see their son again. That is often the only comfort to come out of such extreme sadness. But then I realized the pain and anguish of this
situation extended even further.
I can only imagine the horror of the two women riding the
raft with the boy. Both had injuries, but how could you not be affected for
life after experiencing and seeing what they saw? Also, imagine how the designers of the ride must
feel. What a terrible thing to live with knowing that you created something so
many people enjoyed, but also led to the death of one so innocent.
Three things come to mind: They all need our prayers, life
is not guaranteed , and then the age old question of, “Why does God allow
things like this to happen?”
The first one is easy to do. The second one reminds us of
our own mortality. We ignore it and procrastinate thinking, “we’ll do it later.”
But guess what? Later may not occur. If a 10 year old can die in the blink of
an eye, what assurance do we have that we will still be on earth in the next
day, hour, or even 5 minutes?
I’m thinking a little about the memoirs that our church
members are writing for our congregation’s 150th anniversary. The
deadline is November 1, and less than 20 people have taken the time to write
something. We’ve already lost some very important people whose lives were
integral to our church, but they chose to wait to make their contribution, and
we will never have their memoirs to pass on to future generations. One thing
that M.S. has taught me is to not procrastinate or at least not as much. I don’t
know what I will feel like tomorrow, so if it’s important, I try to do it
today.
Now the last part of my thoughts mentioned above relates to
the questions: Why did this tragedy occur, and why didn’t God prevent it? I could give the clichéd
response that we aren’t meant to live forever, but I think there is much more
here to be said.
I hope no one says to the parents that it’s “God’s will,” or
even worse, they incorrectly cite Corinthians 10:13 by telling them “God never
gives you more than you can handle.” First, that refers to temptation − not all
circumstances. Secondly, I don’t believe that God purposely gives bad things to
people (Christians believe in the New Testament which doesn’t coincide with the
Old Testament that depicts God as one who smites and hardens hearts).
Romans 8:28 (NIV) tell us, “And we know that in all things God
works for the good of those who love him…” If we look at death as a punishment
for those who die, then we can’t believe this verse, but if we know that
something better awaits us, any “punishment” seems to fall on those left
behind. What is promised, I think, is
that God will help us make lemonade out of the lemons because we need meaning
to our lives and what happens to us. Life isn't meant to be punishment.
We might rephrase the question, “Why does God let things
like this happen?” to “Does God really love us?” That’s what it really comes
down to in the end. Ergo, if God loved us, He wouldn’t let this happen. But when God does let tragedy happen, I must believe
He makes it part of a greater good.
I don’t mean that anything could ever replace the incredible
loss that has befallen this family, or any other family who loses a loved one.
But I do wonder if God will use this tragedy to protect thousands of others
from injury. Perhaps, He is protecting a future president or the person who
will ultimately find a cure for cancer. We don’t know what God has in mind, but
I’ve learned to trust that whatever it is, He will replace some of the evil in
this world with what is good.
Thursday, August 4, 2016
2016 - Already My Year to Remember!
Aside from five different health issues since January that ranged from calcium crystals in the ear canal that caused dizziness, to eye infections due to allergens, it's been a monumental year. I'd like to share some of the current and upcoming reasons for which I feel especially blessed.
For the second year in a row, I will have a story printed in the Chicken Soup for the Soul Christmas anthology. This year, the book is titled Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Joy of Christmas, and it is due out October 18. If you've ever been interested in our family's gingerbread creations, I think you'll appreciate the story. This year, there may even be a picture of the one noted in my submission.
Also, another story that is soon to be published is included in the Hometown Memories anthology for northeast Kansas. That story details the heartwarming event where Bill Self gave my late husband the experience of a lifetime while Steve battled terminal cancer.
Add to the anthologies, this fall will see publication of my first published children's book titled An Afternoon with the Christmas Angel. I will have a short introduction of the book on my webpage in late September. For any parent struggling with the secular and non-secular aspects of the season, it's a fun and educational story to give to children 3 to 10 years old. (A precocious two year old might even enjoy it). Since the business of early childhood was my background, it's about time I published a children's book!
Now if I add these soon to be released works to my story included in the mystery anthology of Murder at the Liberty Ballroom: Anthology of mystery, thrillers and suspense, it explains how some of my time has been spent this year.
In a few weeks, I'll introduce you to a wonderful memoir written by a friend, and for which I served as editor. It's a fascinating book from someone who worked for Billy Graham, served as an early Regional Director for Habitat for Humanity, smuggled Bibles behind the Iron Curtain, and much more. Even if I weren't the editor, I would recommend this entertaining and enlightening book to everyone! It's titled A Journey Worth Taking: God, M.S. and Me.
In July, my son and I submitted a patent application for a new type of adult walker. It is nothing like anything currently available and it is a vast improvement. I am hopeful that this will be a benefit to many people and enable me to maybe become a better philanthropist.
So what does all this mean? It is simply evidence of how blessed I am! Romans 12:16 (NIV) states:
6 We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us." I thank God that He has helped me to identify mine and given me the opportunity to use them to do a little good in this world, now and in the future. I don't have any delusions of grandeur; I know where my inspiration and talents originate. God gets the credit - I'm just fortunate to be the vessel!
For the second year in a row, I will have a story printed in the Chicken Soup for the Soul Christmas anthology. This year, the book is titled Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Joy of Christmas, and it is due out October 18. If you've ever been interested in our family's gingerbread creations, I think you'll appreciate the story. This year, there may even be a picture of the one noted in my submission.
Also, another story that is soon to be published is included in the Hometown Memories anthology for northeast Kansas. That story details the heartwarming event where Bill Self gave my late husband the experience of a lifetime while Steve battled terminal cancer.
Add to the anthologies, this fall will see publication of my first published children's book titled An Afternoon with the Christmas Angel. I will have a short introduction of the book on my webpage in late September. For any parent struggling with the secular and non-secular aspects of the season, it's a fun and educational story to give to children 3 to 10 years old. (A precocious two year old might even enjoy it). Since the business of early childhood was my background, it's about time I published a children's book!
Now if I add these soon to be released works to my story included in the mystery anthology of Murder at the Liberty Ballroom: Anthology of mystery, thrillers and suspense, it explains how some of my time has been spent this year.
In a few weeks, I'll introduce you to a wonderful memoir written by a friend, and for which I served as editor. It's a fascinating book from someone who worked for Billy Graham, served as an early Regional Director for Habitat for Humanity, smuggled Bibles behind the Iron Curtain, and much more. Even if I weren't the editor, I would recommend this entertaining and enlightening book to everyone! It's titled A Journey Worth Taking: God, M.S. and Me.
In July, my son and I submitted a patent application for a new type of adult walker. It is nothing like anything currently available and it is a vast improvement. I am hopeful that this will be a benefit to many people and enable me to maybe become a better philanthropist.
So what does all this mean? It is simply evidence of how blessed I am! Romans 12:16 (NIV) states:
6 We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us." I thank God that He has helped me to identify mine and given me the opportunity to use them to do a little good in this world, now and in the future. I don't have any delusions of grandeur; I know where my inspiration and talents originate. God gets the credit - I'm just fortunate to be the vessel!
Saturday, July 16, 2016
Christmas in July - Oh My!
Last year I was uncharacteristically slow to get into the
Christmas spirit. But if my reaction to the shopping channels’ Christmas in
July sales are any indication, I won’t have any problem this year.
All of the three major networks (HSN, Evine and QVC) offer
some great Christmas décor, food items, and gifts. I successfully avoided succumbing
to the wares of the first two, but there were two things I wanted to order
again from QVC. Once, I found those presentations, it was easy to spend
additional money on other items.
I think that’s typical of how many of us approach life. Once
we commit to something, it opens the door and we can’t stop. That’s not a
problem unless we do it to excess or to the detriment of ourselves or others.
Sin is often described as excessive behavior. The Ten
Commandments seem to support that theory to some extent, but they also mandate
that some behavior should just not occur, like stealing. As a former pastor
once said, “thou shalt not kill” isn’t an exact translation. We kill all the
time. We kill animals to eat, euthanize pets, swat flies, squash spiders, etc.
The real issue is murder. Do we kill another human being without cause rather
than in self-defense or to protect others?
So when is it appropriate to be a zealot or to be passionate
about a matter? I guess that depends upon the circumstances.
Once you begin doing the right things, you want to do more.
Random of acts of kindness is something that comes to mind. The opposite can be
said for things like little white lies and cheating on taxes. Luke 16:10
states: “Whoever can be trusted with very little
can also be trusted with much, and whoever is
dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with
much” (NIV). I really believe that is a
true statement.
So for now, I’m going to enjoy celebrating my favorite
holiday even though the temperature is nearing 100 degrees. I love the feeling of
the Christmas season, and the opportunity to think of others, even if it means
buying some presents five months early. Anything that encourages me or others to do that
can’t be a bad thing.
Friday, July 8, 2016
Another Benefit to Reading the Bible
When I wrote Simple Things to Make This World a Better Place, I was totally astounded by some of the wisdom in the Bible to support random acts of kindness and how best to live our lives. It probably shouldn't have surprised me to discover approbation of actions that I didn't even realize were in the Bible such as making monetary loans without charging interest, or providing instructions to gain resolution in a conflict.
Now that I've read the Old Testament three times, the New Testament four times, and Proverbs and Psalms twice, I realize how much I still don't know. Every reading leads to something I missed before.
So how did I read the entire Bible, and especially, how did I begin? It was simple. I just bought one of the read-the-Bible-in-a-year books. After the first time through it, I was ready to read the Bible on my own using the version most utilized by my denomination.
But since I'm an avid reader, I also wanted to still read a variety of other books in myriad genres. That opened my eyes to the possibility of reading two or more books at the same time. It wasn't confusing, as I had thought it might be, to read the Bible and something else. Now, reading two or three books at the same time is what I normally do, but I never would have attempted to do so without first reading the Bible along with those other books.
Being able to read two or three books at the same time was once unfathomable to me. Of course, during school years, we all do that with text books and different courses, but keeping characters and plots separate was different, or so I thought. Thanks to my first reading of the Bible each day, I realized that it is possible to distinguish between different books that are read at the same time. I liken it to watching different TV shows. Sometimes I like comedy, and sometimes I like drama. The same is true with books. Sometimes I want to learn something, and sometimes I just want to be entertained.
I do realize, regardless of whatever I choose to read, it is a gift. It is a gift to read the Bible with all of its wisdom because it is my guide for living a better life. But it's also a gift to read for enjoyment. Literacy is one of those things most of us take for granted unless you might happen to be a writer like I am. Most writers love words and it doesn't matter if we are the ones to write them or to read them.
Now that I've read the Old Testament three times, the New Testament four times, and Proverbs and Psalms twice, I realize how much I still don't know. Every reading leads to something I missed before.
So how did I read the entire Bible, and especially, how did I begin? It was simple. I just bought one of the read-the-Bible-in-a-year books. After the first time through it, I was ready to read the Bible on my own using the version most utilized by my denomination.
But since I'm an avid reader, I also wanted to still read a variety of other books in myriad genres. That opened my eyes to the possibility of reading two or more books at the same time. It wasn't confusing, as I had thought it might be, to read the Bible and something else. Now, reading two or three books at the same time is what I normally do, but I never would have attempted to do so without first reading the Bible along with those other books.
Being able to read two or three books at the same time was once unfathomable to me. Of course, during school years, we all do that with text books and different courses, but keeping characters and plots separate was different, or so I thought. Thanks to my first reading of the Bible each day, I realized that it is possible to distinguish between different books that are read at the same time. I liken it to watching different TV shows. Sometimes I like comedy, and sometimes I like drama. The same is true with books. Sometimes I want to learn something, and sometimes I just want to be entertained.
I do realize, regardless of whatever I choose to read, it is a gift. It is a gift to read the Bible with all of its wisdom because it is my guide for living a better life. But it's also a gift to read for enjoyment. Literacy is one of those things most of us take for granted unless you might happen to be a writer like I am. Most writers love words and it doesn't matter if we are the ones to write them or to read them.
Wednesday, June 29, 2016
Hoping or Asking
I think I may have surprised a few of my fellow church council members when I was tasked with offering the ending prayer at our recent meeting. In fact, I'm pretty sure of it because I also surprised myself a bit.
In praying for a fellow council member's friend, who was just diagnosed with cancer, I invoked a plea to God that "we hope that you will send your healing..." That may have sounded different than asking, but even so, hope is still asking; it's just an admission that it might not be granted. Nevertheless it was an honest use of the word, and I think God does appreciate our honesty. Revelation 3:16 states: "So, because you are lukewarm—neither hot nor cold—I am about to spit you out of my mouth." (NIV) There may be a few liberties taken with my interpretation, but how's that for telling us that we should make a decision and be truthful about it?
We've all asked for something in prayer and the answer was "no." In fact one of the most difficult things to grasp, I think, is John 14:13: "And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son." (NIV) We could ask to win the lottery, find a better job, or even a cure for cancer, but it obviously depends on what the request is rather than how we make it.
I've never prayed harder or more fervently than asking God for a miracle to heal my husband who was terminally ill. Unfortunately, the answer to that was "no," and it is still a difficult decision to accept. On the other hand, I have beseeched God for other things and received affirmative answers.
In the end, I have resigned myself to really asking for God's will rather than mine, but I still hope His will is what I ask. As I've mentioned in a previous blog, I know there are some things that we cannot change, even with prayer. God has a plan, and nothing will interfere with it. That may sound a bit pragmatic, but I still believe that it is right and expected that we should pray, ask and hope.
I also believe God wants us to rely on Him and to realize that His wisdom is far greater than ours. He will help us to make lemonade out of the lemons that befall us if we let him. For me, it was taking the biggest tragedy of my life in losing my husband and leading me to a deeper faith, and giving me a catharsis as a writer - evidence of both which you are now reading.
In praying for a fellow council member's friend, who was just diagnosed with cancer, I invoked a plea to God that "we hope that you will send your healing..." That may have sounded different than asking, but even so, hope is still asking; it's just an admission that it might not be granted. Nevertheless it was an honest use of the word, and I think God does appreciate our honesty. Revelation 3:16 states: "So, because you are lukewarm—neither hot nor cold—I am about to spit you out of my mouth." (NIV) There may be a few liberties taken with my interpretation, but how's that for telling us that we should make a decision and be truthful about it?
We've all asked for something in prayer and the answer was "no." In fact one of the most difficult things to grasp, I think, is John 14:13: "And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son." (NIV) We could ask to win the lottery, find a better job, or even a cure for cancer, but it obviously depends on what the request is rather than how we make it.
I've never prayed harder or more fervently than asking God for a miracle to heal my husband who was terminally ill. Unfortunately, the answer to that was "no," and it is still a difficult decision to accept. On the other hand, I have beseeched God for other things and received affirmative answers.
In the end, I have resigned myself to really asking for God's will rather than mine, but I still hope His will is what I ask. As I've mentioned in a previous blog, I know there are some things that we cannot change, even with prayer. God has a plan, and nothing will interfere with it. That may sound a bit pragmatic, but I still believe that it is right and expected that we should pray, ask and hope.
I also believe God wants us to rely on Him and to realize that His wisdom is far greater than ours. He will help us to make lemonade out of the lemons that befall us if we let him. For me, it was taking the biggest tragedy of my life in losing my husband and leading me to a deeper faith, and giving me a catharsis as a writer - evidence of both which you are now reading.
Saturday, June 18, 2016
A Great Win-Win Offer
I love it when businesses do things right, and whenever that
happens, I like to share it. It’s important to acknowledge and reinforce good
behavior because it not only rewards the business and people representing it,
but it ensures good future behavior as well. Even the Bible seems to address
how important it can be to acknowledge what is right and good although I readily admit I’m probably taking some liberty with its intended meaning: Proverbs 15:23 states: A man
finds joy in giving an apt reply – and how good is a timely word!
I am referring now to Hy-Vee grocery stories because there
is a benefit for everyone with on-line shopping. For a mere $2.95, you
can place an order online and then retrieve your groceries through the drive-thru
during the hour block you choose. You must give a certain amount of time before
picking up your items, but what a convenience this is for many of us! Delivery
is just $4.95 and you can also choose the time that is convenient for you to
receive it. (Tips are accepted for delivery, but generally not for pick-up). If you don't have Hy-Vee stores in your area, you might mention it to the grocery store where you shop. Competition often results in improvement.
The fees are now less than I paid some time ago for the same
service. Apparently, Hy-Vee has discovered what a win-win situation this is for
their business as well as the customers. More people might purchase from them
because of this inexpensive service, and more people will benefit from it.
Whether it’s a matter of convenience or much needed assistance, it’s definitely
a plus, and one I intend to use a lot this summer.
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